Oooh that's a tough one! My brain defaulted to Barack Obama, maybe because you mentioned him yesterday. That would be an interesting conversation!

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1. Create an account

2. u don't understand

3. u don't visit for a couple months

4. u return

5. u become addicted

Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to my surgeon, my cardiologist, my GP (who first heard the murmur), and everybody else who was involved. But that didn't make it any less traumatizing.

I'm also grateful for all my friends -- irl, on discord, here, and yes, even twitter -- for the emotional support.

OK fine, I'll look back on 2019.

For me, the year was pretty much defined by my heart surgery, to the point where the three months preceding my diagnosis are a total blur now.

I don't talk about this much but the whole thing was the most terrifying experience of my life. I still have nightmares about it all and also dreams about having to go back again.

That plus it can take up to a year or two for an operated-on heart to feel normal. (It's misbehaving right now as I type this.)

I am thinking about "separate the art from the artist" because there is a lot of that going around Twitter today regarding J.K. Rowling's continued flirtation with TERFness. 

naked man's butt! 

naked man's butt! 

eye contact, unbelievably handsome guy 

My octagenerian father's music genre of choice is the easy listening/beautiful music format. Yes, that's right, elevator music. He listens to a station offered through his cable tv subscription that puts up random "Did you know?" facts about the musicians.

Anyway, that was my Thanksgiving weekend, I hope yours was ok.

eye contact, unbelievably handsome guy 

eye contact, unbelievably handsome guy 

Phantom right shoulder pains. I am pretty sure I did not strain it by lifting anything so I assume it was the long drive that aggravated it. I read that open heart surgery patients can have these things up to two years after the surgery. 😞

Also I can't take ibuprofen anymore (because it's a blood thinner), so I am trying to control it using acetaminophen (a.k.a. paracetamol for those of you outside the U.S.). It's doing ok, I guess, but I have another 8 hour drive tomorrow. Ugh.

Speaking of friends and kindness, most of my friends have noticed that after I have a couple of beers, I get very sentimental and a bit glib. Is there anything quite as annoying as a sentimental, tipsy academic, writing run-on sentences with correct but tortured grammar? No, I thought not. 😉

It's also important for nonfans not to be jerks and say that something we don't like is shit. For example, everyone has that one genre of music they *really* don't like and believe in their hearts is not "real" music. It's incumbent upon us as beings who seek out kindness not to express this point of view, except maybe just to mumble it to yourself while you're using the restroom or something if you really need to vent.

Sure, there are ways to enjoy stuff that can be very annoying. When I mentioned in passing that TAZ wasn't my thing, someone once reacted by unironically giving me a Rick&Morty you-have-to-have-a-high-iq-to-appreciate-it type of line. (That wasn't the exact wording but it was in the same spirit.) To me, whether it's a game or a show or whatever, talking like that is being the exact opposite of a fan.

One of the best things is when friends enjoy things I don't really get into and enthuse about those things and get very excited. Honestly, it's great to see! I don't understand how people can be annoyed by stuff like that.

For example, a lot of my friends love DnD/Pathfinder/etc. Definitely not my thing, but I love seeing them have fun.

Or some of my friends like The Adventure Zone quite a bit. I don't really react much to McElroy style humor, but I very much enjoy how much it means to my pals

Hello from Lisbon where it is 84F = 29C and how is it possible to still be summer in the northern hemisphere in Octdamntober

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